Capricorn Tales

Are you single and fretting over Valentine's? Maybe you're becoming increasingly depressed, or blue, because you keep seeing those jewelry commercials on television, or those candy commercials?  Or your friend's or coworkers keep telling you their plans, or hopes of a potential special moment? Well, I am here to virtually hug you and to tell you, it will be okay.  First, don't begrudge your friend's or coworkers their happiness.  Smile sincerely and be happy for them.  Being happy for them, will make you feel better and will increase your outer (yet invisible) glow.  Hey, you might glow so brightly, you could end up with a Valentine's date if you go to Happy Hour on a Friday night.  Now, how do you get over yourself and move beyond the stigma, that is kind of self-imposed, of being single on Valentine's day?  Take your power back and put you first.  There are a million and ten places open on Valentine's day.  Severa...

There are times in life when you come upon a situation that no matter how hard you try to fix it, it just won't fix and quite possibly, the more you try to fix it, the worse it gets.  I had such a moment this morning, because like everyone else, I am human, and sadly I let it affect a good part of my day. I admit, I am a sensitive human being by nature. I am one of those silly people that actually cares what people think about me and when it isn't in balance with the way I feel about myself, it hurts a bit.  I am not perfect, I am not trying to be perfect.  Over the past few months I have been grown some confidence, but today I let myself down by caving, instead of standing up for myself.  In short, I had a moment of weakness, seen in abundance in my own past. People will sometimes say things that might hurt you.  A lot of times it is just a misunderstanding and no bad harm is intended.  When this happens, you can do one of two things.  Let ...

Today's mantra: I forgive those who have harmed me in my past and peacefully detach from them.   This one speaks for itself.  I have spoken about letting go of things that do not positively serve, you in the past blogs, forgiveness of a person or a situation, can help you do this.  We all have a lot of things that we can forgive to help us move on and I was reminded of that tonight.   I have had to do a lot of forgiving on this journey, from people that hurt me, to myself for not believing more in me, and situations changed my life.  That is right, a situation can be forgiven, because forgiveness isn't just about making someone else feel better, it is about making you feel better.  If someone else is given a reprieve, because you chose to forgive, even better.   Tonight I was reminded of an anger I have carried inside for a long time.  Almost seven years ago, on December 8, 2008, one of my best friends, that was a soul siste...

Making a choice can be easier than you think, but sometimes we hold on to certain ways of thinking, because it is what we are used to, what has become the 'norm', if you will.  Now, imagine you can make a choice and make it stick. It's possible, you just have to believe it is possible.    Life isn't always what you expect it to be, but it can be.  I thought by now I would be a 'paid' writer, but instead I am still working in an office and blogging, however, while I work on my stories, I have made a conscious choice to have peace in my heart about where I am at.  Since it is 'Back to the Future' month, I will pull a name from the movie.   I have always used this term when referring to my writing, I have what I call "George McFly" Syndrome, in other words, I love to write, but I am worried people won't like what I write.  That being said, I made choice to stop worrying about what others think and start pursuing the things that ma...

Well, I am sure Bob Dylan meant something completely different when he sang those lyrics, but from day one until yesterday, I really found that my times, well they were a changin'.  That is what I am going to focus mainly on during this blog, as well as giving my opinion on the meditation challenge.  I went back through the thirty days and I picked my favorites.  Including the staying in the moment meditation. It was short, but for me, it is a way to re-find my balance and center myself.  For instance, if you are having one of those days when you just need step away and breathe, do it literally.  For those moments when you are feeling "less than", do the love meditation, or the self-confidence meditation.  There are so many and I am grateful for the J Bittersweet meditation challenge.  In some cases I edited, for lack of a better word, the way the meditations were done, as I found so many variations of the same thing.  So, if there is somet...

Twenty-nine days down and one more to go.  I am enjoying meditating everyday and find that sometimes I just do it for a few minutes when I need that energy pick me up, or to release those tense moments. When I first saw the meditation for today, naturally I became excited.  Will this help me find Mr. Right? Will this lead me to find the one?  Well, I completely misinterpreted this meditation and was pleasantly surprised when it began.  This meditation isn't about finding anyone other than yourself.   "To love oneself is the beginning of a life long romance."  -Oscar Wilde.  How true are those words?  When you love yourself, you open yourself to love others, whether it be family, friend's or a significant other and this is partly because you are creating a positive energy, or vibe.   This meditation is also about forgiveness of those who have hurt you, and releasing that pain, as well as an exercise in ...

  There is a great line in the movie 'Love Actually' that seems to resonate with me today.  I am a severe over thinker at times, and in many cases that can spell trouble.  Not for anyone else, but for me.  I start to lose focus, I start to not concentrate on things that are important to me and worst of all, I put me on the back burner and focus on whatever it is I am over thinking about.   As a woman who is single, hoping for the one is hard.  I am content in my life, but of course you always want to find the one that you can share life with.  I had hoped when I was younger that I would have a husband, a family and a nice house with a fence...it doesn't have to be picket, I've seen too many horror movies, those actually scare me. Ha!  Needless to say, life dealt me a bunch of distant or cheating men, some I could classify as assholes, others as just a moment in time, but all were lessons.  I didn't see that at the time, but they were....

The last few days have been anything, but normal for me.  I have been running in circles trying to make my life happen, without giving any thought to what I was doing to myself.  How would I end up, would I truly be happy, would I even care?  I was doing it, because I thought the end result was what I wanted, but truly, is it?  Yes.  In the long run, yes, but I had to overcome the first obstacle...me. I know the quest seems vague and I am sorry, but it will have to remain that way.  The journey however, not so much.  Have you ever wanted something so much in your life that you could feel it? You could smell it?  You could almost breathe it?  That's how I have been.  I have dreamt it.  I have felt it and I have touched it.  At this point you probably think I am a whackadoodle and off my rocker, but if you know me, you realize that I am not (shoosh my fellow sassypants pals. lol).  As of late, I have tried to live...