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Day 25 'Enough. Enough Now'...30 day writing challenge.

 
There is a great line in the movie 'Love Actually' that seems to resonate with me today.  I am a severe over thinker at times, and in many cases that can spell trouble.  Not for anyone else, but for me.  I start to lose focus, I start to not concentrate on things that are important to me and worst of all, I put me on the back burner and focus on whatever it is I am over thinking about.
 
As a woman who is single, hoping for the one is hard.  I am content in my life, but of course you always want to find the one that you can share life with.  I had hoped when I was younger that I would have a husband, a family and a nice house with a fence...it doesn't have to be picket, I've seen too many horror movies, those actually scare me. Ha!  Needless to say, life dealt me a bunch of distant or cheating men, some I could classify as assholes, others as just a moment in time, but all were lessons.  I didn't see that at the time, but they were.  They taught me to know what I want and they taught me who I should be...someone who remembers that I still exist and I am important.
 
So why is hoping for Mr. Right hard?  Who knows.  Maybe because as a woman, I had always hoped for the fairy tale.  Not necessarily a Knight in Shining armor, I mean remember Lancelot and Guinevere, yeah, why would you give up the King, only to end up a nun.  Was that a spoiler?  Wait, she did end up a nun right?  Well crap, I don't remember.  Anyway, it's the fairy tale that goes like this, Soul mates meet, soul mates fall in love, soul mates love each other no matter what their self-image is.  In this day and age it feels like if you're not the size of a pole, you're going to be single forever.  I'm probably wrong, or perhaps I've become cynical over the years? I don't know.  All I know is that I watch movies like 'Love Actually', or 'Bridget Jones Diary' and I get all caught up in them and hope that one day one of those cool endings will belong to me.
 
I have a rule that I do not watch Japanese, or any other Asian horror movies, because they're too frakkin' scary.  I love horror movies and a good scare, but those just terrify me to a new level, so nope.  I avoid them like the plague now.  Perhaps my other rule should be no more British Rom-Com's.  Sigh...seriously, they have some good ones, but it just leaves me all gooey and giddy for awhile and then I begin wondering, what the fuck? Then I get sad and pathetic and want to eat chocolate...fortunately I reach for the strawberries instead...usually.  *shrugs* 
 
So then I remembered Mark's line in 'Love Actually', you know Andrew Lincoln's character. Yes, THAT Andrew Lincoln from 'The Walking Dead'...After he professes his love to the girl he is in love with, he walks away and says, 'Enough. Enough Now.'  Well, I'm not giving up that life will eventually start for me in the romance department.  I could go either way with the kids, at the moment, if I do find Mr. Right...whatever he wants is fine by me.  BUT, I am saying 'Enough. Enough Now', when it comes to pining away for something that has yet to happen.  I have an amazing life that I live that is fun and filled with nothing but loving supportive people...and as I keep telling everyone, (Because being single actually makes you a badass love counselor...you can see both sides), 'A relationship should complete you, not define you', and I am letting my being single define me, which is a no-no. 
 
So, if you are in a relationship, love your mate with all your heart.  Do the little things for them that you might think is nothing, even telling them how beautiful their (Color) eyes are let's them know you are looking at them.  Big things are lovely, little things can often be memorable and by the little things, I also mean a note in the lunch box, a text message telling that person you love them...a single flower on their side of the sink...It's up to you to decide what little things might make your significant other smile. 
 
If you are single (like moi...), take heart that there is someone out there for you.  It might take them awhile to find you or even build up the courage to talk to you, but when they do, your life will be splendid and filled with daily doses of beautiful fireworks and raining gerber daisies (Was that ridiculous? I don't care, I loved it!).  Know that you are worth it, even if you're single, because even though you might roll into a pillow every night, you are not alone...you have a world filled with people that love and care about you.  The person that finds you will just be an addition to your collection of wonderful people, but will also be the person you can snuggle up with at night, or cuddle in front of the TV with.  
 
Until tomorrow...Love your other's....Take heart, don't lose faith and just believe.
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  1. UnknownJune 20, 2015 at 7:46 AM

    Aww love this one!

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    1. Capricorn TalesJune 20, 2015 at 11:48 AM

      Thanks. It just poured out of me, though it was hard to be that (mildly) candid.

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