The single person's guide to Valentine's Day.

Are you single and fretting over Valentine's? Maybe you're becoming increasingly depressed, or blue, because you keep seeing those jewelry commercials on television, or those candy commercials? Or your friend's or coworkers keep telling you their plans, or hopes of a potential special moment? Well, I am here to virtually hug you and to tell you, it will be okay.

First, don't begrudge your friend's or coworkers their happiness. Smile sincerely and be happy for them. Being happy for them, will make you feel better and will increase your outer (yet invisible) glow. Hey, you might glow so brightly, you could end up with a Valentine's date if you go to Happy Hour on a Friday night.

Now, how do you get over yourself and move beyond the stigma, that is kind of self-imposed, of being single on Valentine's day? Take your power back and put you first. There are a million and ten places open on Valentine's day. Several years ago, my best friends, that I call sisters, and I began hanging out on Valentine's day. One was battling cancer, so she chose not to be in a relationship, the other suffers from Chronic pain, so at the moment, looking for love has not been high on her agenda. We're all hopeful (hopeless is too negative) romantics, with a sensible side, for any single men reading this (haha), but we decided we would 'suffer and wallow' no more.

The cure? Gather other single friend's. Who knows you might have a married friend who doesn't celebrate on Valentine's day, just because it's not as romantic when you have to wait ten hours for a reservation. No, gather up anyone who wants to go and make a day or evening of it. Book a reservation at a nice restaurant for a little dinner party. Have friend's over and watch a ton of romantic movies, or scary movies, or romantic scary movies. Heck, ladies and gents, 'Deadpool' and 'How to be Single' are out today (2/12/16), so you could even go out to a movie and have some dinner or lunch along with that. (side note: Deadpool rocked! I highly recommend it. It will keep you in stitches).

Last year my dad even joined us and we went to the Scottish Festival at the Queen Mary (Sis Laura has roots, so we let her pick what we did) and that was a blast. We did archery, watched the parade, ate food, that I am pretty sure is not Scottish, and then filled me with Guinness at an Irish Pub afterwards. haha! Point is, we went out and did something with the day and not once did we care that we were single, because we were having too much fun.

You could go mini-golfing, bowling, driving, pub crawling (drink responsibly...uber. cab. Lyft. DD), go sightseeing...whatever makes your heart sing! Just be kind to you and don't let yourself fall into the doldrums while you wonder why you are not good enough. Trust me, you ARE good enough, you just haven't found the right person yet.

So...from one single person to another, be your own Valentine. Make your own heart sing. Again, with your bright smile and positive outlook, you don't know who you might attract and who knows it could mean next year you just might be the person who has the date.

Keep your chin up, your smile sincere and your heart open to love. <3

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