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Learning to Trust the 'Go with the Flow' Process.

December 2nd. It's hard to believe the year is almost over and as I look back on it, I think wow, what a journey I have been on, from January until now, it seems like an eternity and yet, it seems like I blinked and here we are.  You have read about my gratitude, you have followed me through highs and lows, through my introduction to meditation and so on.  Today though I am going to write about something that I find to be the heart of this journey, trusting the process.

In my humble opinion, going with the flow, seems as though it is a process in itself, as mentioned above.  It seems so easy and yet, there are times when you find yourself holding on to something so tight, that is slaps you and says, "hey, trust me, okay?"  When those moments happen you have to admit to yourself that you are not going with the flow, but indeed controlling a situation that would probably work itself out for the best if you just let it drift into the breeze of your thoughts and ride the tide.

As we all know, tides can be unpredictable. In Hawaii, there is this beach where we used to go  "camping" (in cabins, haha) in the summer time when I was a kid visiting family.  Bellows beach was so beautiful and serene in the low tide, so peaceful, calm and shallow, but come high tide, it could pick you up and slam you to the ocean floor if you weren't paying attention.  This is also like life. 

I speak from experience when I say slam you to the ocean floor, because it happened to me.  In hindsight if I had just gone under the water and went with the flow of the wave, I would have been under it, but I tried to control the situation and jump up, which just sent me into the middle of a wave that was already towering three feet above my head, and that was when I was jumping, imagine how much higher it was if I stood still, or ducked.  That being said, I went against the tide and by doing so, I got bitch slapped by mother nature and was told in her own way to sit'er down Shellbell.  I also got to pick extremely fine sand out of my hair for a few days, because high pressure shower nozzles couldn't even do it.  Oh joy.

The moral of that side tracking story is this, if it feels right, don't fight it in your heart, don't let your mind get in the way.  Don't let your past experiences get in the way.  Don't let YOU get in the way.  Just be patient and go where the tide takes you.  It may not always flow in the direction you want it to, however, it is flowing in the direction it needs to so a lesson can be learned.

I am riding this tide, and wave, and flow with you, so don't worry, you are never alone.  We are each learning something in this life that moves us from day to day.  If you go with the flow, the end result comes much quicker than if you fight the tide.  It may not happen overnight, but everything happens in it's right time.

Let go and let life steer for awhile.  Remember you want to enjoy this life, not survive it.  Take each lesson from each experience, good and bad.

Until the next time...learn to trust the process of life.  Let it steer and sit back and enjoy the ride.




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